41: Move Forward, Homo

[00:00:00] Speaker A: Are you sick? [00:00:02] Speaker B: A little stuffed up. But you know what I've been doing? You would never guess what I've been doing. [00:00:07] Speaker A: Neti. [00:00:08] Speaker B: Pot in a million years. [00:00:10] Speaker A: Cocaine. Netty pot. [00:00:14] Speaker B: Tabasco. [00:00:15] Speaker A: Tabasco? [00:00:18] Speaker B: Yeah. Up the nose. I've been putting out my pinky. Put it up my nose. I'll do it right now for you, bro. I've been doing it all night. [00:00:26] Speaker A: Is it actually work? [00:00:27] Speaker B: It's been helping me breathe. [00:00:28] Speaker A: Does it drain you out a little bit? [00:00:31] Speaker B: It helps. It helps for like 10 minutes. [00:00:33] Speaker A: Okay. [00:00:35] Speaker B: All right. [00:00:35] Speaker A: I respect it. [00:00:36] Speaker B: I respect the move, you know what I'm saying? Most people do, you know, My daughter's boyfriend didn't, and then, and then he did, and then he respected it. You know what I'm saying? I got the robe on. I got the Dixon robe on. Tabasco, you know what I'm saying? Boom. Rub it up in there. Boom. Little bump. I might take this to me with work. My shape. I might take this to work with me. Yeah, Feels good. [00:01:14] Speaker A: Do you have to work tomorrow? [00:01:18] Speaker B: Yeah, I gotta work tomorrow, dog. Which. Which you don't. Would you. What, What'd you work? Where you work? McDonald's or del tacos? You ain't gotta work tomorrow. [00:01:27] Speaker A: I work at a community college. And I think. I think we talked about it before, but it was awesome because I got like the 19th, like the 20th through the 5th off, but I'm not getting paid. [00:01:43] Speaker B: Oh, dude, here's. Here's the getting paid, bro. [00:01:49] Speaker A: So. [00:01:52] Speaker B: So don't get me wrong, I work tomorrow. I worked. I worked so for, like, like up to Christmas. I worked from all the way up. Christmas was on a Thursday, right? I worked Monday, Tuesday. I was off Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. [00:02:16] Speaker A: Okay, that's pretty good. [00:02:17] Speaker B: Now I work Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday. I'm off Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. [00:02:21] Speaker A: Yeah, that's. That's pretty good. [00:02:24] Speaker B: And honestly, I just sit in my truck because most of the dudes, they're non escort. So I don't even need to be there. I'm just there to make sure if something happens. [00:02:34] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:02:36] Speaker B: So what I've been working on, part of me, what I've been working on is my New Year's goals, bro. Which is what tonight's about. Which is why we gotta. We gotta publish this one quicker than we publish any other one, bro. Like, this one's gotta go out within the next couple days. Yes. [00:02:53] Speaker A: So I was thinking 39's ready to go. If I can edit 40 and get it over to you, then let's just bump up just like we'll put 39 out today. We'll do 40, like, on the 1st, whenever you've listened to it and approved it, and then we'll put this one out, like, the next day. [00:03:15] Speaker B: Dude, I could listen to 40 tomorrow, bro. Yeah, I'll. [00:03:18] Speaker A: I'll try to get it done. [00:03:19] Speaker B: I don't have. I don't. So even if you don't have 40 done, just send this one. Dude, I. I'll do this one first. Okay, I'll do 40. I'll do all of them tomorrow, bro. I ain't got to do tomorrow, but sit in my car and look at my New Year's resolutions, which, honestly, I'm excited about. [00:03:37] Speaker A: Okay, I'm stoked. [00:03:38] Speaker B: I'm excited about. [00:03:39] Speaker A: So here's. Here's what I'm stoked about. I haven't given thought to this upcoming year, but I found my resolutions from 2016, 17, and 18, so I thought it'd be funny to go into those. [00:03:54] Speaker B: Wow. [00:03:55] Speaker A: And then. Because there's some good ones in there. There's some, like, kind of dumb ones, but there's some good ones in there. And then I want to kind of get inspiration from what you're gonna do this upcoming year, and then I'll make my resolutions tonight, live. [00:04:13] Speaker B: Dude, I appreciate that. This the best. The shitty part with this Tabasco sauce is, like, it helps you breathe better, but, like, on your way in, you hit everything, and it just makes everything burn. [00:04:30] Speaker A: Bro, who told you to do that? [00:04:32] Speaker B: It just makes everything burn, dude. It was just a around, let's find out type. [00:04:37] Speaker A: And then it turned out to work. [00:04:40] Speaker B: Yeah. So, well, what happened was I made some chicken wings last night, some buffalo wings. And my daughter's boyfriend, number three's boyfriend was like, man, that stuff got my nose open. And I was like, serious? He was like, yeah. Mind you, I've been chest sick for, like, the last two weeks, not been able to breathe. And so when he said he got his chest open, I put the. I put the. I put my fingers in the buffalo sauce. I put them right up my nose, and I was like, that'll heal it. And it did for a while. So tonight I was like, fuck it. I'm just putting Tabasco straight up my nose. Let's do it. So I did it. He just got back from Australia, and he gave me something yesterday was called veggie something. Veggie. Veggie bite or some shit. Something like. It's like Australia's fucking Nutella. [00:05:43] Speaker A: Okay. [00:05:44] Speaker B: Australia's peanut butter Vegemite. Yeah, Vegemite Yeah. Yes. He put on some toast for us, and it was like, dude, here you go. He put it on thick, so I'm like, damn, this shit looks like jelly. So I took a big bite. You ever had it? Mm, no. Don't ever do it. [00:06:05] Speaker A: No, it's not good. [00:06:06] Speaker B: As soon as I took a bite. No, dude. Soon as I took a bite, I looked at him like, you gotta be me. And he started busting up, and I was like, what the. You know exactly what you did. I was like, what did I put in my mouth? Like, some gravy, Some sodium. Some sodium heavy gravy. Because that's what this tastes like. It tastes like gravy. That is just so salty. It pissed me off, bro. [00:06:36] Speaker A: I will say. I will say, man, the white countries. The white countries, they struggle with food, man. And I know you don't want to believe that when the ethnics say it, but it's true, dude. [00:06:53] Speaker B: Their version of onion rings is a little bit better, though. Yeah. They got burger rings. They got burger rings. [00:07:00] Speaker A: What's that? [00:07:01] Speaker B: There are onion rings with. With tomato powder instead. With. It's onion powder and tomato powder. [00:07:07] Speaker A: Interesting. [00:07:08] Speaker B: It's supposed to taste like a burger. It just tastes like a good onion ring. [00:07:12] Speaker A: Yeah, we'll have to cut that out. [00:07:15] Speaker B: Yeah. No, we won't. [00:07:17] Speaker A: I thought, you know what? [00:07:18] Speaker B: I'm about to go live with this, dude. I'm about to blow my cover, bro. Like, I've been thinking about it. I'm like, this. I don't give a. Who knows who I am. Like, I honestly was thinking about just calling out names tonight, bro, and just saying, leave them in, including myself, bro. [00:07:34] Speaker A: Like, can I stop you? [00:07:35] Speaker B: I've been interacting. [00:07:36] Speaker A: I love the fire. First of all, I love the fire. I love where you're at. [00:07:40] Speaker B: Yeah, I appreciate it. [00:07:42] Speaker A: Second of all. Second of all, I was in the shower not 20 minutes ago, and I was thinking about, at what point are we gonna stop being anonymous? I was literally thinking, like. Like, once. Once he's secure in his job, I think we're good, right? Like. [00:08:06] Speaker B: Listen here, Dick Clark. I'm ready to go whenever you are, okay? You call me Guy Lombardo. You call me Ryan Seacrest. I don't give a shit. Nick Clark, whenever you ready to rock and roll. I'm ready to rock and roll. That's. That's where I'm at tonight, bro. Like, I was. I was. I was socializing with some of the people. Like, they were like, what was your. What's your podcast? And I was like, I Can't tell you. [00:08:32] Speaker A: I gotta be real. I'm having a moment right now. [00:08:34] Speaker B: And then I was like, suit it in. [00:08:40] Speaker A: I'm having a moment right now where I'm realizing there is a lot of stuff I would not have said on this podcast if I ever thought we were going to reveal our identities. [00:08:52] Speaker B: I'm ready to keep it. I'm ready to keep it. I'm ready to keep it solid too, bro. If you want to keep it anonymous, I'm ready for that too. However, this new I'm about to roll out with bro I'm excited about. I've been spending most every, every my New Year's as I'm ready to get into New Year's resolutions. I'm ready to get into Deb Celebrity. Okay, Give me some slack tonight. I'm about four deep in my old fashioned. About four deep on my old fashioned. Okay, My nose is stuffed up. Feel like a dickhead. But I got emailed a thing. You know that little tablet I got that's called Remarkable? Yeah. I got emailed this annual review and it said, hey, look, there's this thing called annual review. We put it together with this dude called Shane Parrish who has a podcast called. What's this podcast called? It's called like it. He's got this website called like Star Farn Farnham street. And he's called, he's got a podcast called Knowledge Project. And what he does is he interviews high educated people that have already been experts in their field and he supplies or he, yeah, he supplies their information on his website so that you can just kind of like go in and learn from them without having to like take the classes, you know what I mean? And so I've been listening to his podcast and stuff. Anyhow, they, they emailed this collaboration from his podcast and, and from Remarkable and it walks you through like, hey, look like, let's make 2026 powerful. And here's how we're going to walk you through it. And it's a 66 page document that goes through your annual review. It's like, oh, first step, set your focus. Second set, let's, let's touch on the keys to success. And then it goes into like, what's your, what's your honest audit? Like what your what you what set you back? What do you flow freely in? What like what, what hurt you in your, in your progress? Then like, what are some of the things you need to eliminate? You know, for me it was like sitting around television doom strolling and it's like what needs more energy and focus. And then it says, write down, map your horizon. Write down the top 10 things, goals, top 10 goals you want to accomplish in 2026. So me all excited, I'm like, here's my 10 next page. Just pick the top three, eliminate the other seven. The other seven are fucking pointless. Don't touch them. They're your no go's, they're your no go's. Focus on the top three. Circle your top three, write them down here. And then go through how you're gonna measure progress and success and it goes to reach one, you know, I mean, you got your top three, how you can measure your success and progress in, in this first one, the second one, third one, what do the next 30, what do the next 30 days look like? And then what do you need for key support? Who or what do you need to make this happen? And so I was like, alright, cool, cool. My top three are build a curriculum for superintendents for my company. Build a curriculum for trim, which is the trim for me is the refined intentional man. That's what TRMM is, the refined intentional man. And then lastly, my third one is I want to have a savings of at least $10,000 by the end of the year. My divorce wiped me out, got me in a negative. After I was done being divorced, I was in the negative. By the end of the year, I want to be at least 10,000 in savings, at least. And I know that's not a lot, but after coming out of divorce, that took me from 20,000 in savings to negative. Whatever. I want to, I want to, I want to come out on top. [00:14:12] Speaker A: I respect it. [00:14:13] Speaker B: So that's where I'm at, man. And so I went through and that's what I've been spending my time on. And so one of my resolutions, which is not on this, but in general is to make the most of my time. No time is to be wasted. If I'm gonna be listening to podcast outside of Candace Owens, it's gonna be educational. It's gonna be inputting some into my life that I could, that I could pour into other people. I'm dying, bro. You, you hear it? [00:14:55] Speaker A: No, I, I, I like that a lot. Is that something you can share with me that, or is that just for the subscribers? [00:15:04] Speaker B: Dude, I got a PDF. I'll send it to you. [00:15:06] Speaker A: I appreciate that. That'd be great. Yeah. [00:15:11] Speaker B: So. [00:15:14] Speaker A: Is that, so that's the crux of, of your, of your resolutions this year. [00:15:21] Speaker B: Those are the top three, bro. Okay, those are top three. It is Definitely to be more successful at work, which is when I went in, I went in about two weeks ago and I said, with the owner of our company and I said, hey, look, if in five years I'm a superintendent, I failed myself somewhere. I said, I've, I said, my fears are you're going to keep me a superintendent because I'm really good at what I do. Nobody wants to move up someone that's good at what they do, you know, I mean, it's like an area that you don't have to worry about when you're an owner. He's really good at sales. Not gonna move him out of sales. However, I'm gonna get burnt out really quick. I'm a good superintendent, but I'm a better person that pours into others. I can lead better than I can be. Let me lead. He's like, well, if you're a superintendent five years, yeah, I would agree. You're fucking letting yourself down and I'm behind you on where you want to go. What do you want to do? [00:16:31] Speaker A: Awesome. [00:16:32] Speaker B: I said, ultimately I want to be a president or VP of construction, and that's where I want to go. You know, I'm good at leading. Let me lead. I said, here's what I'm doing on the outside of work. So outside of work, I want to create a curriculum that teaches people, men, how to basically. Incorporate, if you will, their mental and physical well being. But I also want to incorporate their social and professional well being as well as their spiritually and materially well being. So these six bubbles I want to incorporate because they all touch each other, you know, I mean, like me engaging with someone professionally is going to affect how I engage, let's just say women socially. If I walk into confidence in a meeting, best know I could walk into confidence in a bar and ask a woman to buy her a drink. If I can spiritually pray and be before the Lord, best know I'm going to look good doing it. You know what I mean? Like, and that's not to say I'm going to idolize material items, but that it all incorporates. Because if I feel confident, if I dress nice enough to feel confident, because I think of number three. Number three came out one day. She came out ready for school in a tank top, a tutu, some shorts and some rain boots. She was in third grade. She said, I'm ready to go to school. So you feel confident in that shit? Yeah. I said, let's do it. She looked like a fool, but she felt, yeah, but she felt confident. Bro. And that's all that matters. So if you feel good going to work, you're gonna feel good going to work, and you're gonna perform good. When you perform good, you get paid good. It's all a circle, same thing. You go out looking good, you're gonna look, you're gonna feel good. You're not gonna feel like an idiot going talk to some chick. You're gonna feel like a million bucks, you know? I was out with stretch marks one night. He asked me to go to dinner with him. We went to dinner, and we saw two chicks across the bar. It was a nice little restaurant. Little, you know, it was. It wasn't like some dive bar. There are two. Two women across the bar. And they kept looking over and he was like, you know what? I'm gonna walk by them, I'm gonna trip. I'm a ball, and I'm gonna get up and I'm gonna say. And I was like, check this out. So I just walked over, I said, hey, you. You ladies, you look beautiful. You look like having a good time. I'm not trying to interrupt, but I would love to be able to sit here and buy you guys a drink and just kind of get to know you guys, if you're cool with that. And they were like. They were married. One was getting married, one was married. But they respected the fact that I just came at them straight up. Yeah, they were like, if we weren't married, we would love that. That the way you came up was so. We appreciate that. Like, so many guys come up with stupid ass lines and shit. Like the fact that you came up and just were straight up. I wish we were single, but she's getting married tomorrow. She came in, I talked to him for about five minutes. I said, hey, look, I ain't about trying to break up. I'm not trying to get in the middle of relationships. I'm not trying to muddy the water. So I'm gonna respect the fact that you ladies are. Are in relationships. And I appreciate you. You ladies, drinks are on us. Next round's on us. Have a good night, ladies. That was it. Classy. Classy. It's way different from what stretch marks wanted. And that's it, man. I enter a meeting the same way as I do a social event. I look good doing it because I take pride in how I look. When I first started going out with stretch marks, he was wearing black. And again, there's nothing wrong with black on black on black. But he was wearing a black shirt, stretch out, neckline, very Nice necklace, shorts, black shoes. Just was like, he was cool with that. I looked at him, I said, hey, look, you're coming out with me and my lady. Next time, iron your shirt. Don't come with a stretched out fucking neckline. You don't wear shoes. Make sure they clean just for me, bro. I don't want to be seen with you. Not in a bad way, but in a way of like, if I'm, if I'm being your mentor, step it up because I know you got better in you now. He comes out with white shoes, all clean. He don't wear them out all the time. He just wears them when he goes out. Jeans and a nice presentable shirt with a good collar. Again, don't care if it's a black T shirt. I wear black T shirts all the time with black pants. Don't care. Just make it look clean. Make it look like you took some pride in how you came out today. And so a lot of it is like, I want to incorporate all that, bro, into men. And so that's, that's, that's trend for me. I want the refined, intentional man, but I want someone that wants it, you know, I mean, I walked through Walmart today. I seen so many men look like they was wearing pajamas and. But all these things intertwine with one another. Your social intertwines with your professional. It just does. He thought he looked nice coming out with the black shirt that had the fucking look like somebody pulled on his fucking. His, his neckline shorts. He probably thinks he looks nice at work, not realizing, like, you look like you. Like for you it's comfortable, but it's not presentable. But I also need to meet that quality. I like to have a cigarette every now and then. My clients don't like the smell of cigarettes. So part of my requisite for work, from my work curriculum I want to build is if you want to smoke a cigarette, go off site and wear a glove, bring some fucking mouthwash because clients don't like the smell of cigarettes. Learn everything you can to be a great superintendent. Now let's step it up. You'd be a great superintendent, but smell like shit, look like shit. They can't argue the fact that you do great at your job. The client can't argue, oh, he's a great superintendent, but he smells like shit. Looks like shit. Well, now we're gonna fine tune that. Now you do a great job. You look great, you smell great. Yeah, great. You know what I mean? Like, that's where I just want to go with work, But I also want to do with men in general. Yeah, but I only want to do with men that are. Want willing and ready to, like, let's go someplace. It's shitty, but society has a view on what they want. [00:25:03] Speaker A: I don't think that's shitty. [00:25:05] Speaker B: It's shitty. No, it's shitty because there are certain people that do great at their work, but they're. They smell like fucking cigarettes. There's people do. People do great at their work, but they look like shit. [00:25:20] Speaker A: But I think you have a point, though, that, like, it's all connected. And so, like, if you can't, you know, like, there was this guy at my last job that, like, wore all black, which is fine. That's what I do. Covered in cat hair. Always like, I mean, looked like a werewolf. And it's like, dude, if you can't get it. And I'm not saying I never have cat hair on my pants or whatever, but this was excessive. It's like, if you can't get your together enough to not walk out of the house covered in cat hair, something's off. Something's off. [00:25:56] Speaker B: I'm not. Not gonna lie. My project manager on my last project, we were building a surf park, came in every day with dog hair all over him. And that was the same, despite what's coming out of his fucking mouth. All I could think about was that fucking dog hair on the back of his jacket. I was all over. He had two golden retrievers that he just, like, kicking in his car. And I'm like, I can't get past that. You're a great, great project manager. I can't get past the fact you thought it was okay to step out of your house and meet with someone who is investing $350 million in a surf park with dog hair all over your shit. It just doesn't make sense to me. Yeah. You know, I mean, and I. But. But again, I've talked to some of these clients intimately, you know, Rico Suave is my client, and. And one of the things he said to me was, when I first met you, I saw how you were put together, and I thought, we're gonna get along just fine. This guy is very put together. He's very clean, very organized. And that's how I like to roll. I like to be organized, and I like to be clean. And this guy just. First. First meeting. That's what his instance, his instant thought was. I never thought this shit really mattered. It mattered to me, but I never thought it mattered all the way around. I Thought maybe I'm just fucking. I'm just fucking not special. I'm fucking. I'm weird. Weird in that shit. That I judge people on how they fucking look. Not happens, man. Stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. Yeah. Same way as fucking. People walk in and present themselves. You fucking see it. You know, I have a good friend name. We'll call him Dick Van Dyke. Only because he's related to Dick Van Dyke and he's a millionaire. Guy's a millionaire. Still wears fucking jean shorts. Like he's dressing in the fucking 90s when we go out. Mind you, he has the money to do whatever he wants, but, like, chicks will still talk to me over him. And he's like, I just don't get it. I'm like, you want to know why? Because you dress like you're in the 90s still. You wear baggy jean shorts. You wear full matching outfits. Like, we're 45, bro. Dress like you give a. Yeah. Dress like you actually give a. Yeah. Yeah. That's where it's at, man. So welcome to Pseudonyms. I'm with Dick Clark over here. And this is New Year's resolutions. [00:29:17] Speaker A: Yeah. Coming straight from Baby New Year, it's Dick Clark. [00:29:24] Speaker B: I didn't know if I was gonna be Ryan Seacrest or Guy Lombardo. You know what I mean? I didn't know who I was gonna be. [00:29:30] Speaker A: You could be Ryan Seacrest. [00:29:34] Speaker B: I appreciate that. As your successor. Is that. Is that the Guy? Yeah. Successor follows. [00:29:38] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. [00:29:40] Speaker B: Guy Lombardo was a predecessor of. Of Dick Clark. Really, man? [00:29:45] Speaker A: What did he do wrong to not get his name attached to that forever? [00:29:50] Speaker B: Just got old. [00:29:51] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:29:52] Speaker B: So a couple things we're going to talk about tonight is celebrity death pool. Now that we got a dollar amount assigned to it, I've done some research. [00:30:02] Speaker A: Oh, okay. All right. [00:30:04] Speaker B: And speaking of Dick. Dick Van Dyke. I would like to put them on my list. [00:30:08] Speaker A: Okay. You want me to pull that up now or do you want to do that later? [00:30:16] Speaker B: You tell me, bro. I'm. I'm all. I'm fluid, bro. I'm fluid. I Bucky Bucket. That's go up my nose, bro. I don't give a wish. I had garlic. I do have garlic. Give me a second. [00:30:31] Speaker A: Okay. [00:30:33] Speaker B: You'Re good. Keep talking. I just gotta put garlic cloves up my nose. [00:30:37] Speaker A: You wanted to add Gary Busey as well. Do you know who you want to trade out for those two? [00:30:44] Speaker B: I. You know what? I actually do, because Gary Busey, that dude there, how's he still alive? [00:30:54] Speaker A: I think he's just brain damaged. I don't know if he's like, physically that messed up. [00:31:00] Speaker B: I am, but I figured he would be dead by now with the brain damage he's got, bro. Like, that dude is nutso, bro. But he's been nutso for years. [00:31:10] Speaker A: Yeah, I. I don't know if he was like, super well adjusted before the motorcycle crash. [00:31:17] Speaker B: Oh, I didn't know he got in a motorcycle crash, bro. [00:31:19] Speaker A: Dude. Yeah. That's why he's so fucked up. He, yeah, he fucked, he hit. He like flew off a motorcycle and hit a curb and his fucking brain was like coming out on the sidewalk and they managed to like put him back together and get him. You know what I think is remarkably, remarkably physically able to. [00:31:47] Speaker B: Wow, that's crazy. Yeah. I never knew that. I'm not, I'm not gonna lie. I just. [00:31:53] Speaker A: Yeah, that was a little, little off. That was after like all of his famous movies. So, like he was. It might have been before Point Break, but it was definitely after like the Buddy Holly Story and Silver Bullet and stuff like that. [00:32:12] Speaker B: He said Point Break. [00:32:14] Speaker A: What was that? [00:32:16] Speaker B: He's in Point Break. Yeah. [00:32:18] Speaker A: I don't know if that was before or after the crash, but it was probably before. What was that, like, 98 point break. [00:32:29] Speaker B: I have no clue, dude. I just know I call surfer kids that. Any kid that looks like he's a surfer, I call him Point Break. [00:32:36] Speaker A: Tubular. I hated that movie. Couldn't get through it. I wanted to like it so bad. Well, we talked about yours. I got a few swimming in my head. I think dressing better at work would be a solid resolution. And I don't think it would take much because I already wear. [00:33:05] Speaker B: What? I don't think so either. [00:33:08] Speaker A: Yeah, I. I already wear like, nice pants. They're not like, if you touched them, you'd be like, oh, those are cheaper than they look, you know. But like, they present well. I do wear vans, but they're like plain black vans with the velvet top, whatever you call that material. So they're not terrible. But I could, I could rock like a pair of Doc Martens. That'd be a little. [00:33:37] Speaker B: You know what I did? I went to stately men.com stately men.com and I hired a fashionist, a fashion stylist. I go through a little questionnaire and then they send me monthly. Pay them monthly. They send me monthly a box of clothes. And so this, this month, I got a pair of Stacy Adams, a Steve Madden belt, a rota, like, nice sweatshirt, a dress shirt, socks, a long sleeve polo Shirt. And then I give them feedback. Do I like this? Do I not like this? [00:34:35] Speaker A: Should I. Should I take the quiz, or do I have to, like, sign up to actually get the results? [00:34:41] Speaker B: There's no. There's no results. It's. You take the quiz, and then they either pay or you don't pay. [00:34:46] Speaker A: How much are you paying every month? [00:34:50] Speaker B: So I signed up for the 350amonth pay. [00:34:54] Speaker A: Okay. [00:34:54] Speaker B: And they were like, hey, do you want to sign up for a bonus? We'll give you the discount structure of this, this, this. And I was like, whoa, shit. You give me the premium package for a little bit more. Let's redo this. And then I picked the tier under what I wanted, and they said, hey, do you want the next tier up for this? Dollar amounts? Like, that's exactly, exactly what I wanted. So I took the tier I wanted for, like, about $20 less than what I would have normally have paid. Okay, I'm gonna try it out. I'm gonna try it out for two months. I do like some of the stuff they sent. I like the socks. I like. I like the Stacy Adams. I'm a big Stacy Adams fan. I like the shirts. Wasn't big on the slacks they sent. I asked them to send me some more denim. What? I actually asked them because as I'm looking into this curriculum as I'm looking into, like, This curriculum of being a trim man. A trim. I can't say trim man, because then it's man twice. As I. As I'm looking in this try man stuff. Part of it is how you look. You know, you do you. You dick. Do the same as Michael right next to you, cubicle next to you. You guys function the same. You meet in the same deadlines. You guys are both exceptional at what you do. However, Michael dresses better than you. Promotions are coming up. Who are they hiring, you or Michael? [00:36:43] Speaker A: Probably Michael. All things being equal, the guy who looks better is going to get it. But I make them laugh, so. [00:36:54] Speaker B: You do, but. But Michael's all about business, and that's what they're worried about. Yeah, Michael doesn't make him laugh. But Michael knows the same business as you do, and he dresses better, and they want to put him in front of the client before they put you in front of the client. Right. So I've been reading how to Buy Menswear. It's a. It's a. It's a small book. It's written by a guy who was labeled, I want to say, 2023 or 2024. Esquire's. Best man, best dressed man of the year. And he goes through everything. He goes through like buying drape over drip. Now drip is trendy, right? I tried to explain this to my sister. I said, hey, look at the. The brand Champion. The brand Champion has been around for years, but it was Walmart's cheap brand when I was growing up. When I was growing up, Champion was the cheap brand. It was like, oh, you're wearing Champion. However, Champion now is the high end brand. Everybody wants to wear Champion. It's a fucking trend. However, this guy teaches, stay away from logos and brands. [00:38:18] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:38:19] Speaker B: Because they're most likely trends. They're going to go in and go out there. Fashion, they're not style, they're fashion. And what he kind of teaches and what I want to incorporate is style. You have your own style. Stay away from the brands and fashion and go with style. And so he says if you want to, if you want something like I've had a cardigan with those elbow patches. You've probably seen it, it's a black one, it's got elbow patches, fold over collar. It's what I usually wear when I smoke my pipes. It's a style and it's a piece. I've had it for fucking 12 years now. And so what he teaches is go with something that's gonna last. It's gonna always be in. You know what I mean? It's gonna always be in. He's got a leather jacket he's worn for fucking 15 years, this guy. And he's like, every time I wear it, it's like everybody considers it the go out jacket, the lucky jacket. I've had friends ask me to borrow it. It's just my favorite piece. And he goes into how a proper suit fits. But he says, go with raw material, raw natural material. Cottons, wools. Don't go with synthetics. And so this stately sent me a bunch of stuff that was kind of synthetic. Oh, stretchable material. And so my feedback was, hey, stay away from synthetics and send me more natural shit, more raw shit. I like raw material. I want shit that's gonna last. I want to be able to walk out 10 years from now wearing the same shit. And fucking people know what's up, you know? Yeah, there's kind of words. But I also want it to be me. I want to feel comfortable, I want to feel confident in it. I don't feel confident in what I'm wearing. I'm not gonna feel confident from the client. I'm not gonna feel confident for the girl at the bar. Yeah, just not. And that's what I want. So. [00:40:28] Speaker A: So thinking about how I can make some improvements in that area. I think like this time of year I can wear a long sleeve dress shirt. Problem is most of the year that's a no go because I get really hot and then I turn red and I think that's off putting. I will not feel confident dressed in something that's gonna make me red. So I'm thinking like short sleeve button up shirts with a collar, plain colors, black. And I want to go for some gray because I have never felt better than wearing a dark gray dress shirt. I don't know why color. Are your eyes green. [00:41:22] Speaker B: Man. Go some earth tones, bro. Like my lady loves wearing black. Well, when I see her in brown, she has brown eyes. When I see her in a true chocolate brown, which she doesn't wear a lot, dude, it makes her eyes pop. Yeah, I don't match that because I'm a, I'm a blue eyed Caucasian. She's a brown eyed Caucasian, but I'm like, hey, go with brown. I'll match it. I don't give a fuck. I'm good looking as shit. I'll match you, you know, I mean. But yeah, your eyes popping that brown dress. So wear that brown dress. You know what I mean? Like where for you, you might be, you might be really good and comfortable in polos. Go with, but don't go cheap. Polo, dude. Go with like Travis Matthews or I think it's Travis Matthews. It's got the TM Taylor, Matthew fucking whatever. But they got a big store at fucking Irvine Spectrum. [00:42:19] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah. Polos is a great option because that's, that's a step up from T shirt. It's casual, it's comfortable, but it's definitely like you took the extra step, you know, I'm not gonna lie. [00:42:32] Speaker B: That black nail polish, that black nail polish. I judge you all day on it. [00:42:36] Speaker A: Oh yeah, I don't, I don't wear this at work. [00:42:40] Speaker B: We just put on at night. You've had on every podcast we've had in the last like two months. [00:42:48] Speaker A: Well, I've been off for like two weeks and I. No, I work. No, yeah, I, I only work Monday through Thursday right now. So if I do do it, I, I paint them like over the weekend. [00:43:05] Speaker B: So hear me. Intertwines with professional. I don't know who you. Do you know who you meet in, in your social life? Do you know who you're running into? You go out for the grocery store, you Know who you're gonna run into? [00:43:22] Speaker A: No. [00:43:24] Speaker B: Exactly. You don't. And there ain't nothing wrong. Black nail polish. Don't get me wrong, I've had nail polish on my fingers because I got daughters. However, you never know who you're gonna meet. And unfortunately, people do judge. And unfortunately, we meet people who have, who run companies, who own companies, who are managers, level three managers, level two managers, fucking different managers. Executives that go to the grocery store, that go to church with us. And unfortunately, they do judge. And there are many guys I've met where I'm like, man, I really like you, but your appearance, I can't fucking market. I just can't market it. I can't market it to the owner of my company. You know, I mean, I can't. I cannot market you. You're not in this situation. But I know a guy who has a long scraggly beard. It's not well trimmed, it's fucking wild. But he's sold out for fucking customer service. Great guy. I just can't fucking sell him to my owner because that's not what I'm going for. I don't want people to judge him, just looking at him. And unfortunately, before you ever fucking speak a word, I judge you right away off of how you look. [00:44:44] Speaker A: Now. [00:44:46] Speaker B: It lets me know how you work. It lets me know how you work. You're clean cut, you're organized, you're put together. I know your work is going to be clean cut, organized and put together. That's just how. That's to me, in, in the field that I am, which is construction, but I've been in marketing. I've been in restaurants. I've been a general manager of restaurants. I've been a director of marketing departments. When I look at you, I can definitely see when you work how it correlates with how you. How you look. Definitely. It might not be given right away, but I can definitely eventually be like, okay, you're sloppy in this because you're sloppy in that. If you don't take pride in how you look, you're not going to take pride in how you present what you present to me. It's going to be satisfactory to you. It's going to be great to you. Because your satisfactory is not my satisfactory. So I need to up. My whole goal is to up the level of satisfactory for men. Up it to the best we can do it. And not to the fact that it's not to the degree that it's a. That it's dredging, but to the degree that it makes me, as someone presenting, ill accomplished or heard, because I think I've been on both sides. I've been a director, but I've also been. I've been a marketing director, but I've been a marketing coordinator. I've been a GM of restaurants, but I started as a fucking busboy. Yeah. I've been a laborer and now. And I've also been a general superintendent. You know, I mean, like, I want excellence, but I want you to want excellence. And that's the only guys I want to work with in this curriculum I'm putting together. I only want guys that want more than what they fucking are. I only want guys that want better than what they are. I don't want guys that are okay with the fucking status quo. Like, I walk through Walmart, I see some of these guys and they're just like, I was walking through Walmart today, I saw some of these guys and I'm like, I bet you're content with your life. You're not the guy I'm looking for. I want guys that want fucking more out of life than what they fucking. Than. Than what they're provided. You want more, but you don't have the tools. Let me give you every tool I have. Take it all. There are guys I actually give physical tools. Tool to some of the tools I fucking cherish. I'm like, it's yours, dude. Take it. I'll buy a fucking another one. I don't give a fuck. You love it, you're using it. Fucking do it. Fucking do it. Go for it. That's what I want. I want men that are hungry to be better than what they are. And I'm excited. The fact that you were like, let me be your first episode. I'm telling you right now, my first client, my first guy is not a fucking episode. Bro, you're my fucking first six months of life. You're my first six months of life. Like, it's a. It's more of a discipleship than a fucking program. It's like, let's fucking. Let's fucking go. Let's fucking do this. That's what it is. That's. And I'm fucking stoked about it, bro. But I only want guys that are fucking on fire that. That fucking want it. [00:48:33] Speaker A: I like it. So what, what's your vision for that, for that show? Now? You see it as like a series on one person? [00:48:42] Speaker B: No, I don't see it as a series of the one person. If one person happens, it happens. It's gonna start out as fucking, like, hey, here's where I came from. This is what I'm looking at, and this is what I've learned. And this is just things that have stuck with me, and here's where it's at. And if you're interested in fucking being, like, wanting more, come let's. Let's fucking rock. Yeah. If you're not, I don't give a fuck. It's not gonna stop me from presenting what I'm presenting. But if you are, let's go. I'll pour every day into you. Every day into you. I. I think a part of me. I think a part of my daughters get pissed off because I'm just so. I'm so gung ho about. So gung ho about pouring into fucking young men. And I know it's because of my lack of being poured into as a. As a youth. Knowing that I wanted to be poured. Poured into is like, I wanted men. I wanted men in my life. Brothers, father figure. I cling to my mom's boyfriends, and they fucking rejected me, but I wanted somebody to pour into me and just show me how to be a fucking man. So much so that I'm ready. I'm fucking. And it took. It's shitty because I was thinking about it today. It took a. It took me losing my family for this to fucking take place. It took me losing my fucking marriage and my fucking relationship with my daughters every day for this to fucking take place. Because I had foster sons, you know, I've had three of them, and I didn't pour into them this way. You know, I was. I was so consumed with just trying to be better at my job and just trying, you know, Like, I just. I wasn't even focused. I wasn't even thinking about this. And so now that this is here and I have the time and. And I'm fucking ready, bro. I'm ready to fucking. I'm ready to fucking rock and roll. [00:50:42] Speaker A: So do you see it more as, like, a coaching thing? [00:50:47] Speaker B: I do. [00:50:48] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:50:49] Speaker B: But. [00:50:49] Speaker A: But because that's what I'm hearing. That's what I'm hearing. I'm hearing you doing a show, talking about things you've learned, and then, hey, if you actually want to do this, 2.99amonth, sign up for my. My online coach. [00:51:03] Speaker B: Dude, I'm not even asking for money, bro. I don't give a fuck. 299. [00:51:09] Speaker A: You should. [00:51:09] Speaker B: But I don't. I don't. I don't. You know, like, maybe that might come through, like, sponsors and Fucking like, advertisement. But honestly, if you have fucking nothing, you just want to be a better man. Fucking let's roll. Show me you're committed. I don't need a monetary. I don't need monetary fucking value or. Or compensation. Just need someone that's willing because there were so many times I was willing, but I had no monetary value. I had no. No money. I was a fucking busboy. Just for someone to say, I'll give you some insight, dude. I would have fucking eaten it up. Just teach me how to be better at me. That's all I want. Dude, I don't care if this makes no money at all. And I was thinking about that today, you know, like, the owner of my company. I talked to him today, and he's. He's like, you know, I'm very. I'm very, like. I'm very, like. I hold things to the. To the. To the chest, you know? Like, I don't want to tell people I'm in Canada taking my kids snowboarding because you guys are there working. I said, here's the thing, bro. You did what was necessary for you to be in that position. You did what was necessary. I didn't. I had every opportunity to start my own company and make it successful. I had that opportunity. I could have taken the road. You did. Maybe I didn't have the guidance. Maybe I didn't. Who gives a. You own a company. You're making enough money to take your. Take them. I'm not jealous. I'm content being your employee, my rich, my value, my treasure is knowing I can make other men better. It's not. My treasure is not taking my kids to Canada. Snowboard. My kids might be pissed on that for real, But I get like. I don't think my earthly riches are gonna be. I don't think I'm gonna ever have a successful company, but I think I'll. I think definitely in the end of the day, I don't think Moody knew the impact he would make when he started a college. I don't think Moody knew what he was gonna. What. What the impact he would have on society by starting a college. And not that I want to start a college, but I definitely want to teach these guys that don't know how. No. No. Chivalry. Don't know. Hard work. Don't know. Press in, like, you know, stretch marks hit me up there about two months ago, and he was like, man, like, fuck. The longest day I ever worked was 12 hours, man. He was going off, and I said, dude, I put in I put in about. I could count six. 26 hour plus straight. 26 straight plus hours. Longest, longest shift I've ever worked was 34 hours. I said to make sure I met the job requirement. I said, I get off on that. Where at the end of the day I go home and say, I did that. I did that shit. That's my fucking fulfillment. I'm salary. I don't give a fuck. I did that shit. I made that job happen. Without that 36 hour day or 34 hour day, that shit would have never happened. But I made sure it fucking happened. It's a fucking. It's. It's pride in a sense, but that's the only pride I really have in what I do and what I provide for my family. I go to a bar and somebody insults me, wants to fight me. I ain't got no pride because I don't want to fight. I got a lot more to lose than you. You want to fight me over me singing or me bumping you, whatever. Fuck, dude, I'm sorry. I'll apologize all day. I ain't gonna sit here and argue with you and want to fight over fucking what, dude? Cause at the end of the day, I got. I don't want to fucking pay legal fees and go to jail and lose work and. No, no, no. However you threaten my family, my girl, my kids, I'll beat the fucking bricks off of you in a minute. You want to come at me though, over me, I don't give a fuck. Fuck off, I don't give a shit. Hit me first, then I'll fight. If I lose, fuck it, I don't give a fuck. You'll never want to fight me again, but I'm not gonna fucking go blow for blow over me. I'm not gonna fucking put my livelihood at risk over me because you insulted me or fucking poured a drink on me. I don't give a fuck. Fucking. It says more about you than it does me fucking. And I'll let you know that before I leave. I don't give a fuck. You'll probably want to commit suicide before I leave because I'm gonna just cut you down with words, you know what I mean? I'm gonna talk about how your mom don't love you and how you're fucking ugly. How you probably never had a girlfriend, how you got an overbite or underbite her. You know what I mean? Like content, bro. However you come with my kids or the girl I'm with, I'll put you in a hospital in A minute. We good? And I'll live fine with that. [00:57:03] Speaker A: I love that. Coming with that hat. [00:57:07] Speaker B: Yeah. You know what I mean? My little cowboy hat. My pride is. My pride, though, is in my work. It's not. Not in. It's not in my. It's not in, like, anything else. It's in the work I present. I put pride in the work I present. I don't put pride in, like, other. I lose more sleep over possibly up somebody's house. Like, the work I did on your house, if it was ever faulty and your parents came to me, was like, hey, like, that stuck. Go up that crack. That stucco cracked and fell off. Or the landscaping, the back up. I lose more sleep over that than anything else. That's my pride. That's where my pride is. Is in. Is in. Is in my work. I've lost more sleep off of possibly laying bad floors than anything else. For real, like, where I wanted to go back and actually talk to the homeowner and be like, hey, like, is your floor actually handling up? Because, like, I knew, like, in this area, fucking, like, didn't know what to do. And I did the best I could at that time, but now I got more knowledge, and I know the way I did it was wrong, you know? [00:58:23] Speaker A: Mm. [00:58:28] Speaker B: Not that I did it, like, ill will in the moment. [00:58:32] Speaker A: Sure. [00:58:32] Speaker B: I did the best I knew. I knew I could do it, you know? Like, that's the best solution I had. But now that I have more knowledge, I'm like, that was a bad solution, you know? [00:58:42] Speaker A: Yeah. Nothing wrong with that. [00:58:46] Speaker B: That's my pride, though. [00:58:48] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:58:49] Speaker B: My pride is not in the bar. It's not in fucking life. Like, people want to insult me. Cool. Insult me. I just know you're not in my sphere. You're not my people. So I just want men to be comfortable. But again, that comes with being confident in yourself. Like, a lot of men abuse women verbally, physically, because of their insecurities, their own insecurities, you know? Like, I abused my wife verbally and physically because of my insecurities. And I didn't realize that at the time. I didn't realize how insecure I was as a man until I had a chance to step back and be like, why did I function like that? Why did I operate like that? And as much as it sucks, not a lot of men have that opportunity to lose everything and step back and be like, why did I lose everything? [00:59:46] Speaker A: Yeah. [00:59:51] Speaker B: So, yeah, that's where I'm at. What. What was your 2016 resolutions? Now that we're 10 years later. [01:00:00] Speaker A: Some of these, I think I'm going to revamp for this year cuz there's some good ones. 2016, I had 10. [01:00:11] Speaker B: Number one, you should have no more than three. Just let you know. But go. [01:00:15] Speaker A: Well, yeah, it was 10 years ago. I didn't know. I also had commentary on all of these and I don't know where it went because I only have the bullet points here. But I remember each one of these had like a paragraph of like why I was choosing it and I wish I could find that. Number one, give to God tithe money to your church. That is not something I've been able to do because we just don't have a spare penny after we pay our debts and our bills every month. But I think this upcoming year we're going to be much more in a position to do that. So I think, I think that can be done. But I mean, also just charitable giving in general is just not something I've been able to do, but it's something I'd like to be able to do. Number two, do your best to love the members of your local church. We've not been in a church really since we moved back to California, but I think I found my church. So, you know, God willing, if my wife likes it and we start going there regularly, then I'll be able to actually fulfill this one. But I don't think that's something I've been terrible at over the years. I think I've always put a lot of emphasis on local church life. Number three, exercise. That's an obvious one, right? But I did exercise a lot this year, a lot more than last year. So I think it'd be easier for me to pick up where I left off this year and go harder next year. So that'll be good. [01:02:00] Speaker B: Okay. [01:02:02] Speaker A: Number four, stay organized. I'm not disorganized, but I can, I can see you, like, why I'm not disorganized. I can see why Jordan, what's his face? Jordan Peterson put so much emphasis on like, cleanliness and organization because, like, I do subtly feel the stress of like, like today, right before we started the podcast, my wife had moved my phone charger and I didn't know where my phone charger was. And I looked around the room and it's just messy enough where like, it could be under there, could be under there, could be under, you know, and like, if I was just more organized, I would know it's not in the room. I need to go, you know, you know what I Mean, like, there's a subtle stress to getting in my car and just there's a little bit of trash on the floor. The CDs are kind of disorganized all over the place. You know what I mean? Like, I'm not 100% sure that I've got my. My updated insurance and registration in the glove box in case I get pulled over. You know what I mean? Like, there's just certain things like that you're just setting yourself up for success. Success if you stay organized and clean, I think. [01:03:30] Speaker B: No, you're right, bro. Like, honestly, again, social. [01:03:34] Speaker A: Yep. [01:03:34] Speaker B: And professional intermingle. So when you're not. You're not organizing your social life, you're not organizing your professional life. You're just not. [01:03:44] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:03:46] Speaker B: In some area, some aspect. So I. I agree with you. [01:03:50] Speaker A: Yeah. Number five. Read more. That's obvious. This year is only the second time in, I think, nine years I've been doing my annual reading challenge. I've met it every year except for 2023, and this year didn't even come close. [01:04:12] Speaker B: You said that before, but your reading is ridiculous, bro. Like, I was thinking about my reading challenge, and I'm like, maybe like 10 chapters a month, you know? I mean, you're like a book a month, bro. [01:04:26] Speaker A: My. My goal this year was 49 books. [01:04:30] Speaker B: Let me show you something, bro. Let me show you something real quick. This is horrible. Pam. A little cabinet. [01:04:41] Speaker A: Nice. I like it. Oh, okay. All right. [01:04:47] Speaker B: You know what I mean? [01:04:48] Speaker A: What is that? [01:04:50] Speaker B: That's my bartender, bro. [01:04:52] Speaker A: Is it like a mixer? It's like a Keurig, but for alcohol. [01:05:00] Speaker B: Yep. [01:05:01] Speaker A: No wonder, dude. I thought you were making these old fashions from scratch. I was like, man, he's up. He's a real. [01:05:10] Speaker B: That's whiskey, that's tequila, that's vodka, that's gin and rum. All right. That's what you want. [01:05:18] Speaker A: What? Whiskey. [01:05:21] Speaker B: Dude, for the mixed drinks, I just use Sam's Club whiskey. [01:05:26] Speaker A: Okay. All right. Well, you. You know what? Let me tell you, dude, one of my top five bourbons of all time is Jim Beam. It's delicious. It's. It's the one of the cheapest bourbons you can buy. And even in blind taste tests, professional bourbon testers love Jim Beam, so. Dang nothing. [01:05:48] Speaker B: I've been going. I'm not gonna lie. The one at Sam's Club. The one at Sam's Club is Canadian whiskey, which is kind of disappointing, but you can't beat the price. It's 18 bucks for, like, fucking two liters. [01:06:04] Speaker A: That's good. That's pretty good. [01:06:06] Speaker B: You know, and so that's kind of what I put in there. And I'm not gonna lie. Does me. It does me right? You know, I'm saying. [01:06:17] Speaker A: Yeah. So I. I understand my reading goal this year was a little bit. Little bit nuts, but it comes from the fact that I don't want to plateau. I always want to be progressing. So, like, the reason it was 49 this year was because last year it was 48. And I'm not gonna do 48 again because I know I can do it already. I'm gonna go one more. [01:06:50] Speaker B: Did you do 48 last year? [01:06:52] Speaker A: Yeah, I did 48 last year, and 48 was the goal for 20, 23, but I didn't hit it. And you know what? I can feel it. I can feel that I haven't been reading because, like, I'm. I'm digging into a couple of theological topics that I want to study up on and get to know more. And I just. I can feel it when I talk about it, when I think about it, that, like, there are just things I used to be more up on. You know what I mean? Like, I could have figured this topic out better a couple years ago because I was just sharper and I was more studied, and I was just more intellectually challenged all the time. You know, whereas. Whereas, like, when you're not reading, you're just not working that part of your brain, and you're not, you know, even. Even watching Jeopardy. I just feel like, yeah, I'm not. I'm not coming up with the answers as quickly as I would have a couple years ago because I just knew more because I was reading up on stuff, you know, So I think it's important to read. Number six was write more. And I know that's specific to me because I write, but I think everyone needs to write more. Even if it's just like, your journal or just, you know, writing your thing for the curriculum at work, for. For the superintendents, like, that writing is a part of successful living, in my opinion. So, like, that's just something you gotta do, and it's good for you. It's good for your brain. It's good for you to think through stuff. So I think it's something everyone should do. [01:08:37] Speaker B: No, I agree. [01:08:40] Speaker A: Number seven, one word, and that's coffee. I was very into coffee because of what it did to my brain. I know when I go a little bit over the line of how much coffee I should drink, my brain is just firing on cylinders that it can't access most of the time. And I love that feeling. I love that feeling of being able to rip through a book because I'm just a little over caffeinated. You know, I'm trying to watch it now because of my blood pressure, but I think, you know, I've been drinking, like, one cup of coffee a day. I think I can up that to two or three just for the. [01:09:22] Speaker B: All right, so you want to know what I've been doing instead of coffee? [01:09:26] Speaker A: Cocaine. [01:09:29] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah. [01:09:30] Speaker A: Tabasco up the nose. [01:09:32] Speaker B: Yeah, just a little bump. Just a little bump in the morning. Gets me going. No, I've been doing espresso shots. Like, I got an espresso machine. [01:09:42] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:09:43] Speaker B: Mind you, I won a 700 Nespresso machine from our company party. [01:09:51] Speaker A: Nice. [01:09:53] Speaker B: However, I do have an espresso machine that I use that it's not. It's like a $200 machine that we. That I bought I have at my house. The 700 the girlfriend got at her house. She was with me, so I couldn't. Couldn't gift it to her for Christmas. And. But I got an espresso machine. And honestly, dude, I got a little nespresso cup. Espresso cup. I hit the espresso machine in the morning, Put the. Put a cube of sugar in there, hit the machine, dude. That's all I need to get my morning jump started, bro. And that's all I do every day now. Like, I don't even fucking do coffee. I just do an espresso shot and I'm fucking golden, bro. Yeah, I'm golden. It's like my new favorite thing to do. [01:10:45] Speaker A: Yeah, it's great. I can see in. In number three through seven, they all go together. The exercise, it's like, good for your body, good for your mind. Organization, good for your mental health. Reading is kind of like the pouring in writing is. The pouring out coffee is fueling the whole thing. Like, I definitely see I was going for something here. Like, I was definitely, like, holistically thinking about what's gonna get me performing on a higher level in general, you know? [01:11:21] Speaker B: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. [01:11:24] Speaker A: Number eight, cultivate your beard. I had a beard at the time, and it was all about keeping it trimmed up and nice. I don't have a beard anymore. I'm glad I don't have a beard anymore. It looked terrible. [01:11:42] Speaker B: I thought your beard looked nice. I was going to say from the beginning I thought your beard looked nice, but, you know, is what it is. [01:11:49] Speaker A: Yeah. Number nine, buy a gun. I never bought a gun. I still don't own a gun. [01:11:57] Speaker B: Number three won a gun at our Christmas party. [01:12:01] Speaker A: Nice. [01:12:02] Speaker B: At our Christmas party, our owner. Our owner provided all the white elephant gifts. And one of them was an AR15 and the other one was an FN. An FN something. And number three won. Won the FN. She just had it out today and we were just messing with it. [01:12:27] Speaker A: Cool. Yeah, I just, like. I don't know, whenever I want one, I don't have the money. And whenever I do have the money, I don't. I'm not. I'm like, interested in other stuff. It just never lined up right for me to actually go and get one. But. [01:12:44] Speaker B: Well, if you ever have $350, that's what my gun would cost. Yeah. Because I sold it pretty cheap when I got on this whole probation shit, so. Sold it to a cousin. He has it. He said he'd sell it back to me. So if you're ever interested, I got a gun for you. It's a nice gun. I'm gonna buy it back once I'm off probation. [01:13:07] Speaker A: Nice. [01:13:07] Speaker B: If you don't buy it first, of course. [01:13:09] Speaker A: I really should have bought one in Oklahoma because you don't need a license or any of that in Oklahoma. Like, if you're not a felon, you can just buy a gun. No waiting period, no nothing. [01:13:21] Speaker B: You just need to be white, bro. You white. You got a gun, buddy. [01:13:27] Speaker A: You don't even need. [01:13:28] Speaker B: You got a gun. I'm surprised. Surprised they didn't hand them out of grocery stores for you guys, bro. [01:13:33] Speaker A: And you. I think Arizona is the same way. You don't need a license to carry either. [01:13:40] Speaker B: No, as long as it's. It's not really. As long as it's out in the. [01:13:43] Speaker A: Open, like, open carry. [01:13:47] Speaker B: It's an open carry. Like you can conceal. [01:13:50] Speaker A: You can conceal carry in Oklahoma without a license. You're. You can. [01:13:54] Speaker B: You can conceal carrying in Arizona. Except for as if, like you're doing it for a church or an organization, then you need your ccw. [01:14:04] Speaker A: Oh, okay. Interesting. Interesting. I would almost see it going the other way. I would almost see, like, hey, if you've got a good reason, like, if this private property wants you to do it, then you can do it. You know, that kind of thing. [01:14:18] Speaker B: I thought the same thing, but Stretch Marks went. And he got involved in this church and they were like, hey, you should join our security team. He's like, I would love to. And they're like, you just need a ccw, which is a concealed carry license. You know, and so he went and got that. And honestly, in Arizona, it's an eight hour class that you just kind of sit through. You have nothing. You don't have to do nothing but sit through the class, and then you're. You're good to go. [01:14:47] Speaker A: Nice. Yeah. [01:14:52] Speaker B: Nice. Until black dude does it. All right, what's up? [01:14:56] Speaker A: Number 10, Liberty. And I do remember a little bit of the. The paragraph that I wrote on this, and it's. It was basically like, hey, you're. You do not live in a free country. There are very powerful people that want you to be enslaved. You're gonna find every possible way you can to be free. So whether that means you find a loophole in the gun law, you find a loophole in the tax law, whatever it is you. You want to collect rainwater, do it. You know what I mean? Like, whatever it is, just live free. And that was it for 2016. You want to do the rest or is this kind of boring? [01:15:41] Speaker B: Dude, let's do the rest, bro. Like, what do you got? What do you got? What do you. What's the rest? 2017, 18. Yeah. Yeah. [01:15:48] Speaker A: And there's only three different. Yeah, they're different. [01:15:52] Speaker B: Okay, let's do it. [01:15:54] Speaker A: 2017. Number. Number one. I hate this. [01:15:58] Speaker B: Hear me out, hear me out. I'm amazed that you have resolutions because, like, my lady, I said, hey, what's your resolution for this year? And I was talking to her a little bit about it. She's like, well, you know, like, last year, I said, you know, I was telling her I was writing them out. She goes, last year, like, you know, I just had, like, ones that I was like, what were they? And she was like, you know, they were just ones that I like. I kind of like. I, like, have in my mind that, like, I don't really, you know, I just kind of have in my mind. And I'm like, fuck? Does that mean you having your mind? Like, you didn't write them down? She like, no, you know, I just have them in my mind. I like, okay, that's a little weird now. I was like, so what were they? And she was like, well, you know, like, getting divorced, you know, making sure my son was taken care of. And, like, making sure he was, like, off, like, set off to school. Okay, she was always yours. I was like, I ain't had no resolutions before this year. You know, outside of, like, outside of, like, going to a gym, I never had nothing. I never wrote down, like, resolutions. Like, I never had resolutions before. Really, this year, outside of, like, last year, which Was going to the gym, you know, that was it. So I'm pretty amazed that you wrote down resolutions. So let's. Let's hear what you got, bro. [01:17:29] Speaker A: I think 2017 is better and more thought out, but there are some cringe ones. Here's a cringe one. Number one, do your best to love your woman now. [01:17:43] Speaker B: Oh, my gosh, I get it. [01:17:45] Speaker A: But I could not have worded that more gaily. Yeah, that would be a good one to bring back. [01:17:55] Speaker B: However, sometimes that's the best you could word it. [01:18:01] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:18:03] Speaker B: Like, for me, this year is save money better. Save money better. [01:18:10] Speaker A: Like, that actually says a lot. [01:18:13] Speaker B: It does. Love your woman better. Says a lot, dude. It does. As gay as it sounds to you, it says a lot because a lot of men or not thinking what. What. What you wrote down. [01:18:24] Speaker A: Yeah. So that's definitely one I should. I should revamp this year, but all right. [01:18:30] Speaker B: Move forward. Homo, Gay. Ass. Love my. Love my woman Better gay. What's up? [01:18:36] Speaker A: Number two. Now this one. I have not kept a single day on purpose since I wrote this. I've never been. [01:18:48] Speaker B: You have or have not? [01:18:49] Speaker A: I have never been intentional about actually following through on this one. Although I have done it. Number two, unplug for at least an hour a day. That means, like, just no tv, no phone, no nothing. Go outside, do something for at least an hour. I've done it, but I've never once done it with the intention of actually keeping this resolution. So I think that would be. [01:19:14] Speaker B: Yeah, but somewhere is stuck. Somewhere stuck. Because you've done it, but rarely. You tell me you go on walks and like, honestly, dude, don't. Don't. Don't play yourself too low. [01:19:29] Speaker A: I'm listening to a podcast if I'm on a walk. [01:19:33] Speaker B: Yeah, but, dude, honestly, like, it's educational, bro. Like, I'm sure you're not listening to some dumbass podcast. It's some podcast that's edifying your life in some way, dude. And. And I'm not gonna lie. Today was a great example of it. And I've had many days of this in my marriage when I come home and I'm like. I go straight to my room. Come straight to my room today. And I'm like, I just want to take off all this work clothes. I just want to get in relaxed clothes. And it's like, hey, dad, can you help me with this? And I'm like, no, I'm in the middle of something. I'm just trying to fucking take a shit. Fucking take off my boots and shit. And I Do that. And then it's number three. Hey, dad. Hey, check this out. I want to share something with you, like. And I'm like. And in my mind, I want to be like, hey, can I just have a fucking minute? Can I just fucking have a minute? Can you just not come in for a fucking minute? But I can't do that because I feel like a dick, dude. I feel like it's gonna turn them off. That's how I feel, though, you know? And mind you, I'm listening to podcasts at the same time because trying to grow. And these bitches keep coming in asking me to help them with shit. Look at. And I'm like, oh, my gosh. So I get it. And I. I commend you for. For having that time. I want that time. I just wish I knew a better way to say, like, to. To implement it without being so pissed off, because I end up getting pissed off. I don't say this to them. I entertain them. And I'm like, oh, yeah, that's great. This is great nail polish. Good. It's a good bracelet inside. I'm like, you know, I'm like, I don't give a. Like, fucking move on. Like, let me just have a moment. I just literally walked in the front door, bro. Like, I was with both you today. This week. I got number four with me at work now, mind you, number three works with me. So all day today. We've been together since 5am so when I come home at 1:30pm And I'm getting my shit situated and they want to come in and talk to me, I'm like, bitch, I've been with you all day. You didn't say shit. You know what I mean? Now that I'm in my room and I'm in my fucking space, you want to fucking talk. Like so. But I can't get mad because I'm still their dad. So go on, go on. I go. I digress. Go on, go on. [01:22:17] Speaker A: Number three. This one. And this is maybe the only one that I have kept 100%. I take great pride in this one, number three. [01:22:27] Speaker B: Always. [01:22:30] Speaker A: Always look up a word you don't know. Every time I hear a word I don't know, I look it up. [01:22:39] Speaker B: Hey, that's awesome. Because I do the same thing. [01:22:41] Speaker A: Yes. [01:22:42] Speaker B: Like, I. I think that's what. Why we get along so well. We're. We're thirsty for knowledge. Yeah, we want to know. We want to know. We want to know. That's it. [01:22:55] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:22:56] Speaker B: Like, we want to know. [01:22:58] Speaker A: Yeah. I think I Think that's the easiest thing you can do to build your vocabulary? It's easier than doing a word, a day calendar or whatever. It's just if you hear some shit, you. And you don't. And you think to yourself, I don't actually know what that means. Go frickin look it up. [01:23:13] Speaker B: It's easy. [01:23:16] Speaker A: Number four. [01:23:17] Speaker B: Stop. What? Stop. What was the last word you looked up? [01:23:23] Speaker A: Oh, let me see if my dictionary app keeps a history. I don't think it does. [01:23:38] Speaker B: I know, I. I know. Okay. It's not a word I looked up, but it's a word I committed to memory. [01:23:45] Speaker A: What is that? [01:23:46] Speaker B: Because I looked at it as. I looked at it as a souffle. I looked at it as. As a brulee. A brulee, like, piece. [01:24:02] Speaker A: Mm. [01:24:03] Speaker B: And it's a ramekin. [01:24:06] Speaker A: Ram. [01:24:07] Speaker B: I kept referring to it as like. Yeah, ramekin. I kept referring to it as like, oh, that's a souffle dish. Like, that's a souffle dish. Like nuts. Yeah, yeah. No, no, no. What's that fucking dessert that you fucking get with a crust on it? [01:24:22] Speaker A: Creme brulee. [01:24:23] Speaker B: It's like flan brulee. I thought that was a bru. Like a brulee dish. Creme brulee dish. It's a ramkin. [01:24:31] Speaker A: Dude, I've never heard of a ramican. [01:24:36] Speaker B: Dude, I committed to memory today. Dude, I saw it twice now, last couple. Couple days at Walmart. And I was like, oh, that's a ram. And I was like, rumble, still skin, had a Raman R. I just kept. [01:24:49] Speaker A: Saying that I couldn't find a history on my. My app. But a word, a great word that comes to mind is tangential, means lightly touching. So. So your job might be tangential to a similar. A similar position in the company. Let's say something like that. [01:25:17] Speaker B: Tangential. I like that. Yeah, I like that. [01:25:22] Speaker A: Number four was very similar to the ones the previous year of like, read more, write more. This was just create more. Whether it's literature, music, or carpentry. I was really into carpentry at the time. Number five, enjoy whiskey, but don't abuse whiskey. I was a bit of a drunk at this time. [01:25:48] Speaker B: Oh, I'm not gonna lie. That is actually very. A very good one. [01:25:52] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:25:53] Speaker B: Yeah, that's very good. [01:25:57] Speaker A: Number six, buy more guns. Which is really weird that I wrote that because I never bought a gun in the first place, so I'm not sure why I wrote. Wrote that. But number seven, I really like, do not invest time in unsavory people or argue with them in accordance with the proverbs. And then number eight, something I'm not very good at. Withhold personal information about yourself to others. Oh, sorry, sorry. [01:26:33] Speaker B: What? [01:26:34] Speaker A: Withhold personal information about yourself and others. [01:26:40] Speaker B: So, no, that makes sense, though, bro. Like, I've learned the hard way. And honestly, I've had people I've confided in. I've had people that I've confided in cried in their arms, and they were the ones selling me out on the river, and I didn't realize it until. Until it was too late. Yeah, you know, like, honestly, you got a goal. Don't share it, just do it. [01:27:13] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:27:15] Speaker B: You know, people are they a lot of people. And you know what great example of what I was talking about earlier, I live in an apartment right now, and my neighbors who I was closest with, like, I came home one day and I cried in this dude's arms. He was like, what's going on? I was like, I just need to get it out. I just needed to fucking get it out. And he was like, oh, dude, I'm here for you. That dude went and told everybody about my past. And I remember meeting a friend's girlfriend one night. She was really confrontational. I said, man, you are really, like, abrasive. That's what I told her. I said, you're really abrasive. I just met you, but I could tell you right now, you're really abrasive. And the neighbor that was dating her, he was, oh, that's crazy, because my mom said the same thing about her. I said, oh, really? So then, like, fast forward a couple weeks. He goes, he was, hey, about that night. He goes, she was really abrasive. He was just crazy because my mom told her the same thing. He goes, but she was really abrasive to you because so. So told her about your past. I was like, I was kind of fucked up. I said, it's fucked up because, like, here's a dude that, like, has no teeth, ex meth addict, and he wants to talk about my past. I said, that's up. [01:28:50] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:28:51] Speaker B: And he goes, yeah. He goes, yeah, it was up. And so fast forward a couple days, and he goes, and I. I confronted that. That. That neighbor. I said, hey, look, I don't need you as a friend. Like, we good. Like, don't worry about it. Like, we. I ain't got no qualms with you. But. And then, like, that kid that told me that comes forward, and he goes, hey, I lied to you. I. I'M the one who told her about your past. I said, here's the thing. I don't need either of you as friends, honestly. Ah, don't do that, homie. Don't do that, man. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. Now, mind you, an actual good friend of mine also neighbor, was like, that's what happened. I said, yeah, but it's cool, dude. Don't worry about it. He was like, I'm gonna go punch this dude. I'm going to fight him. I said, look what you got to lose. I said, you got a career. I said, because all they got is jobs. They got jobs. We got careers. You're about to throw away your career or hinder your career because you want to go fight somebody over some. I don't give a. Why you give a. He said, oh, you my man. You my man. I'm gonna go fight this motherfucker. I said, nah, nah, nah, nah, nah, dawg, don't worry about it. Because, like, honestly, we have careers. They got jobs. They can find another job tomorrow. This could hinder our career for however long. It hinders our career. However long stays on our record. It can hinder our career, could set us back. We ain't worried about it. We ain't worried about it. Honestly. We ain't worried about it. And that's honestly how I feel. You got. You got a lot to lose. Fuck it. Fuck them again. My pride is in my work. It's not in my fault. My past is my testimony. If you can't see that, I don't give a fuck. You don't see that. I don't give a shit. You don't want me man enough to talk about it. I don't give a either, but it ain't worth it, bro. Any worth. It really ain't worth the. Any worth the headache. Yeah, do you boo and I'll do me. [01:31:15] Speaker A: Yep. [01:31:16] Speaker B: I still live above that. We haven't talked in a year. We pass each other almost every day. I see his family almost every day. We'll say to each other, and I'm okay with that. [01:31:35] Speaker A: Yeah, yeah, man. It's. You just. You learn over time that, like, they're taking something from you. You know, when you're younger, you'll have a friend because, you know, you just have a shithead friend and you're loyal and whatever, but when you get older, man, you really start to feel like how much they're taking in your energy, in your happiness, you know, it just. It adds up after a while. And I think that's why. I think that's why we have less friends when we get older, you know? [01:32:11] Speaker B: Yeah. And honestly, like, even with family, boundaries are okay. [01:32:15] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:32:15] Speaker B: You know what I mean? Like, you can have family members around and set boundaries. And that's what I had to tell number three. You could be around your mom. She hated her mom after the divorce. She hated her mom. I was like, you're going to. You're going to wish you had these moments with your mom. And she was like, yeah, but I hate that she would call her. She would call her her first name. She wouldn't call her mom. And I was like, look, you're going to wish when you're my age you didn't do this, make friends with your mom, but set boundaries. You know, if your mom starts going off on the lip, just say, hey, look, we good. I'm out. We good. We don't need to do this right now about set boundaries. Boundaries are okay, bro. Yeah, Boundaries. Okay. [01:33:08] Speaker A: All right. 2018. I only got three for 2018. [01:33:12] Speaker B: 2018, you had three. That's the right amount, bro. What you got? [01:33:16] Speaker A: I don't think they're great. Completely eliminate gossip from your life. I feel like that's pretty similar to the previous year where I said, withhold information about yourself and others, but. [01:33:30] Speaker B: No, no, it's not. It's not. Gossip is gossip, bro. Yeah. Because eliminate gossip is a great. Whoops. Eliminate gossip is a great resolution if that's what you're into. Yeah. And I don't know where you were at 2018. How old were you at 2018? [01:33:54] Speaker A: 24. [01:33:57] Speaker B: 24, okay. You were probably a good gossiper in the day. [01:34:05] Speaker A: Not at that point. I was. I was. I was getting out of it. But a couple years prior to that, for sure. [01:34:12] Speaker B: Yeah. But that's probably why you weren't so bad at it, because it was something that was bothering you leading up to. And you were like, hey, let's just fucking put this to rest. So that's a. That's a great. That's a great resolution because there's a lot of women I know out there that admin that should probably fucking have that as a resolution, you know? [01:34:34] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:34:37] Speaker B: What was. What was number two? [01:34:39] Speaker A: Stick to a daily routine. I like this one because it just ensures that, like, certain things get done that you want to do every day, like reading your Bible, praying, meditating, whatever. I've come to not, like a strict routine as much because it makes every day feel the same. It kind of makes the time fly by. I don't Grow as much from it, because I'm just not taking as much from every day when I do that, you know. [01:35:13] Speaker B: All right, now, I might have said this at the beginning of this podcast, but I might have got it confused with saying this to my, To, To Miami because her son's in the military. There's as, as corrupt as the military can be. I think it teaches great things to individuals. Discipline, primarily. Yeah. I think there's a benefit. And I don't know who said it, I don't know what the reason was, but there is a great reason to make your bed every morning. [01:35:52] Speaker A: Yes. Yeah, that's Jordan Peterson. [01:35:56] Speaker B: Military or not. Okay. Like military or not, great reason to make your bed. And I think the military treat teaches great, great self discipline. Individually, as corrupt as the military is overall, I think individually it teaches great discipline. Yeah, individually. So I do agree with that. I do agree with what you're saying. [01:36:28] Speaker A: Yeah, absolutely. [01:36:30] Speaker B: I do think a daily regimen is necessary. I functioned well with it. With a great daily. Yes, I functioned well with it because I know owning my own company, if it's raining, we ain't working. Not only my own company, if it's raining, we got deadlines in me. Let's go. [01:36:59] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:37:00] Speaker B: You know, I mean, and, and I relate that the sense of reporting to someone else. I know I'm a great wingman. Maybe not great leader, but I'm a great fucking wingman. I know that. I'm okay with that. I'm not a great pastor. I'm a great system pastor. With that being said, I need the structure. I did well with the military, Father, because I need the structure. I, I operate well in structure. You know, you got fucking, you got fucking goals or fucking things I gotta meet, I do well with that. So in a sense, yes. However, for entrepreneurs, in a sense, no, probably not. Probably not the best. [01:37:53] Speaker A: I think there should be a balance. So, like reading my Bible, something I want to do every day, I should have the discipline to keep that routine. But in the interest of making it impactful, my environment has a lot to do with that. So, like, hey, if you do it at the kitchen table every single morning, just go out on the patio one morning, just go out on the patio, do it at work, do it at the bar, you know, do. Do it a little bit differently every once in a while, just to mix it up and just make it. Because I honestly, I, I will get different things out of reading the same thing in a different environment. You know, I'll write differently. [01:38:39] Speaker B: Well, we're. Wait, we're way different in that. Just like. Just so you know, we're way different in that. That. [01:38:44] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:38:47] Speaker B: I do enjoy reading at, like, a Starbucks or something. But if we're talking about a daily routine, I love getting up, making an espresso, going straight to my patio and reading. On weekends, I look forward to waking up, making a. An espresso or coffee and then going straight to my patio and reading. [01:39:08] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:39:09] Speaker B: You know, like just sitting out there. Whether I just. I just enjoy that. [01:39:15] Speaker A: Yeah. Yeah, I enjoy it, too. It just. It makes every day feel the same. And after a while, it starts to almost be hypnotic and you're maybe just going through the motions without really thinking about things, you know, it's. It's why I'll. Occasionally I'll drive home from work a different way just to switch things up, you know? [01:39:38] Speaker B: Dog, I drive home in different ways and I think about you when I do it. [01:39:45] Speaker A: I remember we had this conversation on the podcast. [01:39:49] Speaker B: This is what Dick Clark was talking about. Yeah, this is what Dick Clark was talking about. Like, this is why I'm in one lane. Traffic slowed down because they're doing construction and it's a 45 minute ride because this is what Dick Clark was talking about. Could take you the easy way home, but nah. Dick Clark wanted me to sit in construction. [01:40:15] Speaker A: You may have misinterpreted me. [01:40:19] Speaker B: Now we got a lot. It's the end of the year. It's the end of the year. Everybody's trying to spend their money the best way they can so they get it next year. So a lot of cities are doing road work. Yeah. All right, so what's number three for 2018? [01:40:38] Speaker A: Number three, paddle your own canoe, which is a euphemism for handle your shit. [01:40:46] Speaker B: Yeah. [01:40:47] Speaker A: Don't rely on other people. Don't rely on the government. Don't rely on handouts. Don't rely on your friends to, you know, help you out. It's great if they can. Don't rely on that shit. You got to get the canoe from one end of the lake to the other. If someone can help you paddle, great, but don't plan on it. Count the cost. [01:41:09] Speaker B: All right? So don't fucking. Don't look at me as a dickhead. But when you say that, I'm like, here's, here's. He says that living at home. Mm, don't look at me as a dickhead. But I was like, no, how about new, don't rely on your friends. But yet that's 2018. I agree with you. Don't rely on anybody. Dude, you are in a blessed position. You have parents that could help you out. If I was like. Like, hey, Mom, Dad, I'm moving back home, we'd be all on the streets, bro. Or we'd be like. You know what I mean? Like, I don't know, man. We be. My parents are barely living the. Your parents. I feel like your parents did it right, though, bro. Like, they bought property everywhere. Your dad, not so much. Your dad went a little haywire. Your dad fucking went a little haywire. [01:42:19] Speaker A: But, well, look, I mean, like, yes, obviously, I'll acknowledge I'm heavily reliant on my parents in my current living situation. If that went away, I've still got options. I'll go back to Oklahoma. I know I can get a cheap apartment out there. I know I can get a good job out there, because I just left it. You know what I mean? If I had to do that, I'd do it. [01:42:42] Speaker B: If that went away, you know damn well you'd be out here, bro. Yeah, you be out here. That. You be out here. You. You could get a. Right, right. [01:42:52] Speaker A: 100%. Not for the wage you quoted me, but, yes, absolutely, I. I could be out. [01:42:57] Speaker B: No, but. But at least, you know, you would have a place to stay without having to worry about rent. [01:43:02] Speaker A: Sure. [01:43:02] Speaker B: For a long time. [01:43:03] Speaker A: But I mean, I could. [01:43:04] Speaker B: For a long time. [01:43:04] Speaker A: Like, I could try to get a job out there and, you know, pay my own apartment. [01:43:09] Speaker B: You get a job when you get a job, bro. You get a job when you get a job. [01:43:12] Speaker A: Sure. [01:43:13] Speaker B: We live together until we need not to live together, you know? I mean. Yeah. [01:43:18] Speaker A: The point is. The point is, I'll figure it out. I'm in a certain circumstance, but I'm not 100% reliant on it. It could change. And I still got a paddle, my own canoe if it does. Yeah, that's it. [01:43:33] Speaker B: Canoes, man. Was the last time you really paddled a canoe? [01:43:39] Speaker A: Like, like, physically, like, literally? [01:43:42] Speaker B: Yeah, I'm fucking talking literal. [01:43:45] Speaker A: Never a literal canoe, but I did paddle a kayak once at Catalina. [01:43:52] Speaker B: All right. I just want to let you know. I just want to kind of confirm with you. Shit's pretty easy, huh? [01:43:58] Speaker A: No, no, dude, I was sore. Shit, I. It was just me and my cousin, and I was doing all the paddle, and, dude, this guy didn't do. But, yeah, I was sore, so. [01:44:11] Speaker B: I've never done a canoe. I've never done anything. But I was seeing this girl once who was like, hey, let's go. Was that when you stand on the Board. [01:44:23] Speaker A: Paddle boarding. [01:44:26] Speaker B: Paddle boarding. And she was like, let's go paddle boarding. I was like, yeah, let's do it. Let's do it. That shit was pretty easy. It's pretty cool. We was on a lake. [01:44:34] Speaker A: I've heard that it works your core like crazy. [01:44:39] Speaker B: Yeah, but you haven't seen my core under all this fat. [01:44:43] Speaker A: I figured. I figured. Honestly, all the. All the work that you do, I imagine you got a strong core, and. [01:44:52] Speaker B: That'S what pisses me off as I feel like I got a strong core, but like all the Twinkies and fucking. All the Twinkies and fucking, like cupcakes. I eat like it don't show it off. [01:45:05] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:45:05] Speaker B: And that's what pisses me off. [01:45:07] Speaker A: In life, I am. I am much stronger than I look. I got these fucking. I got these fucking noodle arms. I'm a little soft in the middle. I get it. When I help people move. No one's lifting like I'm lifting, dude. I'm lapping people. You know, I'm moving couches on my own. I don't give a. [01:45:28] Speaker B: It's that dash strength, bro. So I had these two dudes. I had a black dude and a Mexican. Well, have Mexican, half black dude, college kid, half Mexican, half black. Was a college kid. The black dude was just a thug. I love these dudes. They was. They were. They were. I called them and I asked for them on every job when I asked for this temp agency. So they come to this job and I say, hey, look, I got this door up here I gotta have removed. It was a glass door with a handle. So I gotta have it brought down, throw it in the trash. Don't give a fuck. They come up to me midday. He was like, hey, man, we can't move this. We can't move this door. This is so heavy. We can't do it. I said, all right. So I go up. I say, okay, it looks simple to me. It just. It was a glass. It was a glass ass door. It's about half inch thick, regular 3 foot, maybe 4 foot by 7 foot door, which in the industry we call 370. So I said, really? Y' all can't lift this? They was like, nah, man, shit's too heavy. Okay. So I grabbed the handle. Now, mind you, I do a lot of lifting off a. Leverage. Leverage is key for me. You know what I mean? Like, I'm not trying to dead lift. I lift off a lift. Leverage. Use your body. So I walk up next, so it's got a door handle. On it. I grab the door handle, lean down, stand up, boom. [01:47:20] Speaker A: Start walking with it by yourself. [01:47:22] Speaker B: I said, look, y' all are. Yeah. I said, y' all are some. There's like, oh, they stopped. They was like, you got that dad strength. You got that dash strain. Look, I got that life strength, bro. [01:47:41] Speaker A: Yeah. [01:47:42] Speaker B: I put it down, they carried it down. They all of a sudden. All of a sudden, they got. They got. They got the strength to carry it down. They saw me lift it up, carry it down a flight of stairs. They was on the. They was on the second story. Carrie. Dental flies. All of a sudden, first story, they carry it now. Tell you. Wow. In my mind, I said, but I didn't say that out loud, but in my mind, I said it. I ain't gonna lie. I ain't gonna lie, man. I just said it right now. My mind, I'm like, you guys, you gotta say it. But I can't. I can't. That was up. That was messed up. [01:48:29] Speaker A: Your window's open. [01:48:30] Speaker B: I think they said it out loud. I don't know. Somebody said it out loud. I didn't say it out loud, but somebody might have said it out loud. [01:48:41] Speaker A: Well, that's it for me. Those are mine. I came up with one more for this year, I'm gonna journal and think about more I want to do, but I think this year, I'm gonna listen to people. I want to be like. [01:48:58] Speaker B: Hey, look, dude, if there's one thing anybody could take from this, from this, quit wasting your time. Yeah. If this podcast ain't giving you nothing beneficial, if this podcast ain't giving you. Stop listening to us, Start listening to. If you're gonna devote your time to podcast, listen something that's gonna benefit you. Listen to something that's gonna challenge you. Listen to something that's gonna make you grow. Like, I'm listening to podcasts, the Knowledge Project. Another podcast I'm listening to is Give Me One Second, man. It's a. It's called. Dude. It's called How I Built that. Let me look real quick. It's called, yeah, How I Built this with Guy Raz. And then I'm listening to the Knowledge Project. Like, listen to shit that's actually gonna challenge you or give you something beneficial to grow as a man. If you're not gonna challenge yourself, not even as a man, as a person. You know? I mean, Joe Rogan's great. Nothing against Joe Rogan, nothing against Candace Owens, but, like, knowing if Charlie Kirk was killed by his wife or not killed him. Bitch was a Sandler, I don't give two. At the end of the day, who gives a. Who killed him, died. It's over. Let's. Let's just. Just tell me at the end of this, who killed him. In the meantime, let me grow with some shit. Let me be challenged by some shit. Let me be challenged as a person, a young man, a woman. Challenge me to be a better person. Challenge me to fucking think outside my boundaries. Challenge me to be a better person at work. Who gives a shit? Whatever it is, challenge yourself. Quit fucking sitting. Stagnant. You know where mosquitoes grow? [01:51:39] Speaker A: Stagnant water. [01:51:40] Speaker B: Stagnant water. Yeah. That's where mosquitoes grow. Where water is not flowing. I don't need you to be a Christian. However. Light my cigar. However, you will need a governing power over you. The program that I wish to run is similar to the Freemasons in the sense that you have to acknowledge there is a Great Architect. I don't care if you think it's Buddha. I don't care if you think it's. If it's Muhammad, don't give two shits. However, if you want to run logically, if you want to run this race with some sort of common sense and logic, at the end of the day, you will find yourself acknowledging that the Christian God is the God of the universe. [01:53:16] Speaker A: Amen. [01:53:17] Speaker B: You can start out thinking it's anything else. I don't give two shits. But part of this, this. Part of this class session, whatever the. You want to call it. Whatever, Whatever you want to call it. [01:53:37] Speaker A: Movement. I want to call it a movement. [01:53:40] Speaker B: Movement. Yeah. Whatever it is, you have to acknowledge there's something greater than yourself. There's something greater that dictates how this world came about. You have to acknowledge that. And from someone who came from being not atheist but agnostic, like I acknowledged there was some greater being as a youth, I acknowledged that I knew there was something greater. I knew there was a higher power. I didn't necessarily think there was nothing. I'm here fucking roaming around. I mean, I remember at the age of nine, writing letters to God. And I put that in quotes. God. And then throwing them in my fireplace. Give me a second. Throwing them in my fireplace to burn up. Because I'm thinking what I'm writing now, being burnt up is going into the heavens. I knew something was greater than I. I knew we weren't here by accident. I didn't know we. I knew we weren't here by Lucian. I didn't even know what evolution was. I just knew there Was something greater than I. You have to acknowledge, something's greater than I. And after all my trying to debunk Christianity, and, mind you, trying to debunk Christianity, Islam was on the table. Buddhism was on the table. Mormonism was on the table. I didn't know nothing about those. Those. Those beliefs. I knew nothing about them. I just knew that my wife at the time was trying to leave me, and I didn't want her to leave me over Christianity because she got saved or had been saved. And I. I figured. I figured. I figured I couldn't debunk that shit. I'm not a dumb person. I know you're not a dumb person. And the way I came to Christianity was trying to debunk it. I didn't come trying to fucking fall into it. I mean, we went to some of the top pastors of our time. We sat with Rick Warren, and every time he spoke, I fucking would write down. Every time he talked about his book, I show her my notes and say, money. That's money. He's talking about money. His book, money. But at the same time, when I came to the realization that there was a God who loved me so much. That he would look at me with all my faults and say, look, I'm not supposed to be connected with you. I'm not supposed to be affiliated with you. I'm not supposed to be associated with you. Because I'm so righteous. God, I'm so righteous. If there is a creator, mind you, if there is a creator. I speak to so many people out there. You look at so many buildings, so many paintings, so many things. And although you don't know the architect, you don't know the painter. You don't know much of anything. But you could look at the building and say, I know there was an architect because this building has purpose. Like, he created a plug right here where I might need a plug. He created a bathroom over here where I might need to use a restroom. There's an exit every 20ft because there might be a fire. I need. I might need to exit from my life. I might need to go piss. I might need to go shit in the morning. And he created a bathroom every so many feet. This architect took thought into this shit, there might be a fire. He created sprinklers to put out the fire every so many feet. However, I never met that architect, but I know there was a fucking designer behind this building. There's an architect and an engineer behind this building. I might not know Picasso, but I could look at a painting and Say this dude had some fucking thought behind him, some fucking feeling behind him. I could look at him, Rembrandt, and say, that's a Rembrandt. Without knowing Rembrandt. I could look at some fucking lilies on a fucking river and say, that's a Monet, without knowing Monet. Because I know that was his style. I don't know these motherfuckers, but I know that they painted this. I know that some of our most popular designers. Who's. Who's. Who's that guy? There's a guy that's really popular. There's a street named after him in. In. In. In Arizona and that design some. I don't know him, clearly, because I don't know his name, but we got streets named after him. We got buildings that are designated to his museum, designated to his design. Frank White. Frank. [02:00:22] Speaker A: Frank. Frank Lloyd Wright. [02:00:25] Speaker B: Frank Lloyd Wright. We got streets out here named by him. We got buildings because he built a building. And we were like, we're gonna name whole street after him. I never met that motherfucker, but I know he existed. How do I not look at creation? I look at a building, know there's a builder. I knew. I look at a painting, know there's a painter. How do I look at. Not look at creation, know there's a creator. How am I going to deny a creator from creation? The theory of evolution all falls apart at the eyeball. What's that, dude that has a theory of evolution? [02:01:19] Speaker A: Charles Darwin. [02:01:21] Speaker B: Darwin. Thank you. You're not drinking. Darwin said his whole theory falls apart at the eyeball. Because the eyeball in its earliest stages would have set us back, because it would have been a hindrance, it would have been foggy. For evolution to be a thing, our eyeballs wouldn't have been fully focused at the beginning. We had to evolve into an eyeball. But it would have been a hindrance because it would have been so glassy and foggy that we would have been fucking set back. His whole theory falls apart in chapter nine of his book, but yet there's so many people out there. To believe that and yet to know that there's a God that loves me so much, but yet my sin separates me from him so much. Because if there is a God who is all powerful and righteous, he wouldn't have been able to partake with me. You know what I'm saying? Like, Donald Trump, don't hang out with gangsters. This works so well. When Donald Trump was up a, like, part of, like the righteous. But Donald Trump Is such a piece of now. But a rich man won't set himself with ghetto gang members. His. His crowd won't be with that. And God being so righteous is like, hey, dude. Like, I love you, Ryan Seacrest, but I love you, Ryan Seacrest, but you're so sinful, you can't hang out with me. I love you, Dick. Dick. Dick Clark, but your sin doesn't sit right with my character. It's how we operate now. I want to. I want to. I want to start this. Trim the refined, intentional man. It doesn't set right with dudes that don't have the same viewpoint. Therefore, I won't. I will surround myself with those kind of dudes. God's no different. He's like, I don't. I can't set. I can't. I can't be a part of you who sin. Because I'm so righteous. I'm so perfect. Goes against my nature, however. I love you so damn much. I love you so damn much. I'm gonna send somebody to pay your fine. I'm gonna send somebody to stand in your place, and that somebody is gonna be me. I'm gonna do everything. I'm gonna endure everything you endure. All you gotta do is believe in it. That's all you got to do. So when you stand before the judge and the judge is like, hey, look, here's your penalty. Here's your penalty. You. You killed, you raped, you pillaged, you. You did all this. This stuff you shouldn't have done. You're guilty. Hammer. He drops the hammer on your ass. I wish I had something. Let me. Let me try. Drops a hammer on you. He says, you're guilty. And some young man runs in and says, no, hold up. He ain't guilty, bro. He ain't guilty. I'm gonna take that penalty. I'm gonna take that penalty. Judge says, hold up. Let me pull your record. Pulls it up. He said, I ain't got nothing on you, bro. You. You. You don't need to be here. He said, nah, I want to take this penalty for Ryan Seacrest and Dick Clark. He says, you ain't got nothing to do with it. He said, no, no, no, no, no, no. You ain't holding me guilty for my own. My own penalties. You hold me guilty for their penalties. I'm gonna do it. Judge say, you sure? He says, yeah, I'm sure. And he takes our penalty. I come to find out that that dude that took my penalty had a father. I didn't know this at the time, but he went Fishing with his father every weekend. I didn't know this at the time, but he had a wife and kid and kids. He had a wife and kids that he was very active with. And so I see him taking my penalty and in my knee jerk reaction, my re evaluating my life, I say, I want to go spend time with his father. I want to go fishing with his father every weekend. So every weekend I go fishing with his father every week I make sure his wife and kids are taken care of. That is nothing short of the gospel. Jesus had a father who he communed with every week, every day, every hour, every second. He also had a wife who we would call the church. He also had kids in the church, his kids. So why wouldn't I want to go spend every second with his father and every second with his wife and kids to make sure that I commune with the father and that I could take care of his wife and his kids and make sure that they're. Would I not want to. Would you not want to go throw the ball with his kids and make sure they knew how to throw a ball? Would you not want to go make sure his kids knew how to be a woman or man in a proper world? Would you not want to make sure his bride was taken care of? Who in the Bible we would call the church? Would we not want to go commune with the father every weekend, if not every day? I mean, it's just. I don't know how we got on this tangent. I don't know how I got on this tangent, honestly, but. [02:08:39] Speaker A: But I love it. I'm. I don't want to cut you off, but I'm bursting for a piss. [02:08:49] Speaker B: Don't. [02:08:53] Speaker A: I'm bursting for a piss. And I think that you've. You've really put a bow on it there with that. [02:09:01] Speaker B: Man. I don't know, man. I just, I feel like I'm not trying to be big country, but I feel like, I feel like men. I feel like men, I feel like we don't have men. Feel like we don't have men. And I'm not talking about men as in like a set of balls and penis between their legs. I feel like we don't have men in the sense of like, if this government shuts us up and says, hey, do this, I feel like we don't have men to say, hey, look, I ain't doing that. And this is why. I feel like we don't have men with conviction. I feel like we need men with conviction. And that's why I want to start Trim. I feel like we need men with conviction. [02:10:00] Speaker A: And sharks. That's why I'm here today. [02:10:08] Speaker B: Oh. You know how all this started was men with conviction. I feel like. I feel like trim needs to start because I feel like we don't have real men. Yeah, real men. Men that know how to act like men, you know? I mean, like, we just kind of give in to this whole, like, it is what it is. It ain't. It ain't what it is. It ain't what it is. We're in de evolution. We're letting robots take over. We're letting, like, fucking. We're going to work and how we feel comfortable. No, fuck that. We don't go to work how we feel comfortable. We ain't never feeling comfortable. When you feel comfortable, your kids fail. You know what I mean? Like, honestly, you think if I got home and I felt like I was like this, I'm comfortable. Think my kids would have got fed tonight? Think my daughter would take in a shower tonight, brush her teeth. She brushed her teeth because I tell her, you gotta get in the shower, brush your teeth. Same with men. You gotta go to work and look presentable. You know what I mean? You gotta bear that. You know what? You ain't alone, so don't think you alone. I don't know, man. Just shit I fucking deal with. All right, well, that's a bow, I guess. [02:11:44] Speaker A: Happy New Year, buddy. It's been a good year. We started this podcast in January, so our one year anniversary is coming up, but we're closing out the first year of suitors. [02:11:56] Speaker B: Telling you right now, we ain't really, because it's episode 40 and 52 make a year, but we starting some new. We are starting some new, and we got some followers in Georgia after tonight, because I just let it go. I just said, hey, look, we ain't supposed to say this because family might be listening, but family ain't all this. So let's do it. [02:12:23] Speaker A: I love you, man. [02:12:26] Speaker B: Love you, too. [02:12:27] Speaker A: This has been pseudonyms, everybody. We'll talk to you next week. [02:12:32] Speaker B: All right, Dick Clark. See you next year.